Hey. Sorry its been awhile. Things have been a little nuts. There has been a lot on my mind lately. Mostly relationship stuff. As a mom one of the hardest things seems to be dating. There is this colleague of mine that I’ve kind of had this flirtationship with for awhile. He’s the GM at another store in my company that I work with a lot due to our stores being so close to each other. It gets confusing sometimes. And then I recently downloaded that dating app Bumble. I have started talking to this one guy from that who seems pretty cool. Hes a single dad so he gets the kid thing.
One problem I run into is that every guy I start talking to instantly wants to meet my kid, which makes me a little uncomfortable. They all want to try and play dad to my kid. That’s not why I’m dating. My son doesn’t need a dad. He has plenty of male figures in his life. What I want is just someone I can talk to and spend time with. Someone who will just hold me after I’ve had a bad day you know? Half the time I just think I should just give up on dating until after Andrew is grown up and out of the house.
Sometimes I just feel like its never going to happen. Do you ever have that one relationship that was so good that you compare all of the others to? Thats my problem. I met the perfect guy and screwed the whole thing up. Everything was perfect. I honestly couldn’t even tell you what happened with it it was that great. I keep looking for that again. Every time I start seeing a guy I feel like something is off after the first couple of weeks. It doesn’t help that I like my space and hate clingy. I like living alone. I like being alone. I like coming home from work to a quiet house and nobody talking to me after I answer a million stupid questions all day. I like waking up to a quiet house. I like putting something somewhere and having it be in the same exact spot when I go back to find it again.
I was once told that I don’t need to be saved. I understand that. In all reality I don’t. But that has stuck with me.. Why do all guys want to save the girl? What is so wrong about being able to take care of yourself?? Why does that scare men off? Why is it so bad that I don’t need, or want for that matter, someone to take care of me? Is it really so bad for a girl to be self sufficient???? Someone please answer that question!! Men??? What is so wrong with it?? Shouldn’t you guys be glad that you don’t have to pay her bills or raise her kids? Someone who doesn’t need your constant attention?? Men complain about clingy and needy but when a girl is neither of those things it scares them off. Ugh.
Seriously, if anyone can answer any of these questions or have any advice on how to date as a single mom, please help me!!!!
Being a Mom is HARD 